Wednesday 14 October 2015

THREE THINGS, NOT TO SAY TO A WOMAN WHO HAS SUFFERED A MISCARRIAGE OR STILL BIRTH


* I know how you feel.

Because you do not! Even if you have been through your own loss, you do not know who another woman is suffering.


* You can always have another.

Maybe she cannot. Maybe like me, there is also a history of infertility. Maybe the loss has created internal damage. Or just maybe her heart is too heavy to try again.


* It was for the best.

Never ever, ever say this. Saying the mother, was too young, too old, too many other children, too broke, will not heal the hurt of losing her baby.


What you can do is ask her. Ask her what she needs. Never assume.





Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day takes place on October 15, 2015. Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day is a day of remembrance for pregnancy loss and infant death, which includes but is not limited to miscarriage, stillbirth, SIDS, or the death of a newborn. 

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