Tuesday 28 May 2013

TRAVEL WITH A BABY/CHILD CAN BE EASY AND STRESS FREE



I have travelled as a sole parent with a baby through until Tamika became an adult. Now I am travelling with a baby through to toddler, with a partner. I have been often asked for hints on the best options. After our trip to Sydney and seeing a poor mother struggling with her baby I thought I would write a post on the knowledge I have gained over the last twenty years of travel.

Just a small selection of the places I have been with Tamika. 



Each age group comes with its own set of challenges and need to be addressed separately. People often think travelling with a small baby as a sole parent would be the hardest thing, but I challenge them to travel with a pre-menstrual sixteen year old that just got dumped via text before a flight from Australia to Spain. Oh that was a torturous flight!


There were lots of tears on this flight



Today I will concentrate from newborn through to two year olds.

I have always used a baby sling, even when Tamika, and now Jarvis, is too big and heavy for them. It is so much easier at the ticket counter and customs having free hands, even getting on board as it allows you to navigate the isles. Yes you will have to take them off to go through the x-ray, but over all it is an amazing to have your hands free and know your child is close and safe. I also use the sling to put the baby in so I can nap on board the flight, on our flight to China Tamika stayed in the sling for almost the entire time, asleep on my chest. Jarvis did the same thing from our flight from France to Korea.


Jarvis has loved the sling from birth and I used it all of the time, right up until it got stolen this weekend in Sydney.


I have a bulkier and heaver pram that was gifted to me, so before we travelled to France I bought a cheaper light weight stroller. Something that I can lift with one hand with ease. I check this in with my luggage, if, unlike me and you do not want to use a baby sling, in Australia you can take a pram/stroller all of the way to the gate with you and the staff will then check it in for you. You just have to let the staff know when you are checking in your luggage you are going to do this.

Our cheap, lightweight stroller


I then have two separate bags, a backpack for the child and a bag for me. This is why the sling comes in handy. The backpack is filled with everything and anything possible to amuse the child. Each and every child will have their favourite things. These must be bought along to give the child a sense of familiarity, to what can be a strange and stressful situation. I also pack a couple of new things to be bought out separately throughout the flight. Some parents now use Smart Phones, IPads and portable DVD players, but I am use to travelling with Tamika before these things were available and so don’t use them with Jarvis.

In my bag, besides the wipes and nappies, I always pack at least one to two changes of clothes for both myself and bub. Call me vain but I like to dress nice when I travel, I have been given a couple of upgrades over the years (appearance and lots and lots of nice manners go a long way). However, once on board I change my clothes into comfy options. I get cold on long flight so this is also taken into mind. Plus if you end up with either vomit or poo on you, it is nice to know you have something clean to wear.

In my bag I also pack allot of food, small things that take a time to eat. You will be given food on each flight for your child, but snacks are a must. Sultanas, cheese sticks, fruit sticks, anything that take awhile to unwrap and consume. You are allowed to take drinks on board for the baby so a sippy cup filled with water is ideal, as they too can dehydrate on long fights. 

I have a small bag inside my bigger bag that I take out before the plane takes off, I fill this with wipes, two nappies, food and drinks. So much easier to have one small bag tucked under the seat than to have to annoy other passengers by getting your bag in and out of the overhead locker. 

I am also a big believer in a dose of Nurofen before take off, and to breastfeed. If breastfeeding is not an option something they can suck on to help their ears is invaluable.

I think the most important thing is to not stress, stop worrying about what the other passengers think of your crying, shitty child. Children are so good at picking up on your stress. Instead try to turn things into a game. Jarvis loved tearing the vomit bag into strips and throwing it on the floor. This amused him for almost an hour on our flight to Fiji. On our flight to Sydney, Jarvis found the in-flight magazine to be the most entertaining thing from us reading it to him, to him reading it, to then shredding it and making paper hats.

There are so many more hints I can write about, I have been on so many flights with children, but these are the basics. But most of all enjoy the experience of travelling with your child.

17 comments:

  1. I gave my sling away to a friend with a new baby and now I am kicking myself! Especially because even though Qantas lets me keep the pram until we board here in Brisbane, it is about a 1km walk in LA from the plane to the place where I am allowed to pick up the pram. And of course when we land in LA it is the middle of the night in Brisbane time and so Toddler C will be asleep and I will be carting around a heavy, hopefully sleeping baby and our luggage!
    Oh well. We will survive.
    I actually just did a post on travel with kids too...I was looking for suggestions and some people left some genius ideas in the comments!

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    1. I would loan you mine, but it got stolen. can you borrow another? Get a sling sponsor? LA is an insane airport, good luck landing in the middle of the night with a toddler.

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  2. Your sling got stolen in Sydney? That's rubbish :(

    Can't imagine how difficult that flight from Australia to Spain would have been with your teenage daughter!

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    1. We put it on top of the stroller and I sat down to feed Jarvis. Justin turned around for a second and it was gone. I guess we are lucky that was all that was stolen and not our cameras or Jarvis's backpack with had my purse in it. I am going to miss that sling, it has been over a dozens flights. Plus it is a life saver at home when Jarvis won't sleep.
      A broken teenage heart coupled with an eleven hour flight, four hour stop over and then another ten hours. I was never so happy to land.

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  3. Nothing worse than getting dumped and not having good distractions to keep your mind occupied. I bet that's really magnified when you're stuck on an airplane!!

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    1. Couple that with 16 year old pre-menstrual hormones, it was a loooooobg flight

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  4. Sorry your sling was taken, maybe you could sew a "mei ty" in a size to suit Jarvis, just be sure to have enough padding in nice wide shoulder straps for a heavy boy. Something like denim (with cotton lining) would be sturdy and strong enough....long denim skirt from an op shop ?

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    1. Off to google mei ty now! Thanks for the suggestion

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    2. spelled mei tai....basic rectangle with 2 short straps and 2 long wide straps, 2 layers of cotton fabric,easy to wear, easy and compact to pack.99% of people would not know what it is once you take it off, so no theft happening.
      The ones I make have "D" rings in the ends of the SHORT waist straps, you put the carrier on and tie LOOSELY by crossing shoulder straps at back, thread thu D rings and tie long straps in knot and bow or 2 knots,put baby in from the top and then supporting weight with hand , undo and tighten to correct and comfortable position...easy, wear front or back.

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  5. Great post, wish we could just pack our bags and be free to travel and explore the world! One day it's the dream ;-)

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    1. Don't say one day. That day never comes. Start saving now, travel with a child, or in your case children can be done

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  6. Thanks for the great tips! I have traveled a bit with Nereus and most of the times things have been great!

    Surprise No1: You were blond!

    Surprise No2: Who steals a baby sling? This is annoying!

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    1. LOL, I have been every colour possible. I am a natural blonde, possibly now more a natural grey? Do you say it that way? Went grey early found blonde is a good cover for grey.
      Stealing a sling was mean. I love that thing. Not sure if I should buy another as Jarvis is getting older, but we used it so much.

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  7. Poor Tamika (& MOM!), it's amazing what you don't see as a big deal as you get older- I'm sure that day it was the end of the world.

    I'm not one for airplanes (unless I absolutely HAVE to), or even traveling much, but these are great tips!

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    1. I never traveled as a child. Then I became a single Mum at 24 something hit me and I just HAD to travel, and really have not stopped.

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  8. ok, I just had to comment after reading the spain thing. oh no! for both of you. x

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    1. The heartache and the agony of being 16. Actually I think it would sux not matter what age you are to be dumped via phone.

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